So I joined eHarmony a while ago. The deal was good… and I figured that it couldn’t hurt to try to meet more people than what I have been in the past few months. Don’t get me wrong… I’m not desperate, but I would like to meet some good quality people a little more often. Preferably ones that I didn’t go to high school with and only remember the “old me”.
For those that don’t know, the eHarmony process is 4 steps. First closed ended questions, followed by things you classify as “must haves” and “can’t stands”, then open ended questions and finally open communication.
The guy I was communicating with was from about 6 hours away… a little further than I would like if I were to get into a long-distance relationship, but still somewhat do-able. Especially because Chicago was between us – and that’s just {plain & simple} a great town. 
He initiated the process and upon my answering/sending questions he would respond in {literally} 1 minute or less. Every.Time. It almost seemed like he was on the site all the time – which he may have been if he has the iPhone app.
I know I’m quite a catch but still… maybe a little quick and a little too eager.
After completing the 4 step process in about 1.5 days, his first message to me only includes his cell phone number. I try {unsuccessfully} to call by blocking my number (and for what it’s worth, breaking my “golden rule” on dating by having the guy call me if we’ve not actually gone on a date yet) – and then left a message back to him on the site saying that I must have missed him.
He responds that he needs my number – he won’t answer calls without it. So I oblige. I gave up my cell phone number.
He texted me on Tuesday morning asking for my picture – which I sent to him… and received the response “cute 
Nice. And then later that night he called – and left a nice/sweet voicemail on my phone…
…and then he became “Texting Dude”.
On Wednesday he texts me and asks for all kinds of personal information. Some of which I gave to him, some of which I excluded… and when I asked for the same back – he gave me a one single synopsis text back. Great. Not feeling so good about this.
Then I’m out for dinner that night… and while at dinner I get another text from him saying “Can I have a picture of your face?”
Me: “Um, I think I sent a pic to you already…”
TD: “No, I never received it. Can you send it again?”
Me: “I’m pretty sure you received it. You said I was cute.”
TD: “I deleted it. Send it again plz”
5 minutes later… TD: “Can I get your last name? You didn’t send that”
45 minutes more pass… TD: “What was your last relationship” <– Already sent him that info
Another hour goes by… TD: “How is your night goin”
I don’t answer his texts that night. Nor does he try to reach out further beyond them to communicate with me. I also log into the eHarmony site to send him a message and find that he’s closed the match.
Thursday afternoon arrives and I am feeling relieved that I probably won’t be hearing from him.
Then I get a text from him “hey beautiful”. {My thought at this point… uh oh.}
I don’t respond. Instead I turn to twitter… and find that a number of people believe the same thing that I do.
He’s totally a player. And he’s playing me.
Later that night {when I’m at the bowling alley hanging with my brothers/friends} I finally send him a text back… “I’m sorry, but I don’t think we should keep communicating. Good luck with your search.”
And receive this EXACT text back… (his spelling, not mine… I promise)
TD: “your a bitch”
Well thank you.
*My sister-in-law (a teacher) stated that maybe I should send him a text back saying that it wasn’t grammatically correct. I chose not to.
And thus ends another “match” on eHarmony.
Um, and he’s a loser. Geez. Well, at least he gave you some good blog fodder.
LOSER! It’s all I’ve got.
What. An. Asshat.
Wow, that’s dumb…
Oh my. Reminded me of this http://twitter.com/pattistanger/status/25619453650
Love her. Recommended follow if you don’t already
I follow on Twitter and I found I had to be super picky on Eharmony..but it paid off. I have the best boyfriend ever and we met on the site and have been together almost 17 months! Keep trying!
Well I would rather be a bitch than be stupid. Just sayin’.
whew. That guy would’ve irritated the crap outta me, and I would’ve been a lot meaner. Compared to me, you’re certainly no bitch!!
Well that guy was a real winner… NOT! Glad you let him get away!
Hah. I have Alanis Morisette stuck in my head now. “I’m a bitch, I’m a tease, I’m a goddess of my knees.” THAT would’ve been an awesome comeback.
Oh for crying out loud…YES he’s playing you! And I’m sorry you had to go through that because what a pain in the butt. It reminds me of the time in college this guy I liked said he didn’t want a relationship, but then a few days later his profile showed up on Yahoo! Personals. I called him out on it and he gave me some lame excuse, but I knew from then on he was a player. But even then, I didn’t learn my lesson — later that year, I was an unwilling (unknowing, rather) participant in him cheating on his girlfriend. Some people never change. (PS he’s still single and I’m happily married — so you’re better off without him!)
Eh. There are duds out there that is true but you could have just as easily met him in a bar and had the same outcome, just a little faster. As fast as technology moves, sometimes for stuff like this is moves at a snails pace. I had to laugh at the ‘your’ though. Pretty much sums him up.
What a LOSER!!!! I am sorry that didn’t work out, but it sounds like you are MUCH BETTER off without Texting Dude. Great nickname by the way!
Yikes! Sorry to hear about that unfortunate experience. He definitely sounds like one to skip over…
That’s hilarious. And disturbing. And a little scary. But mostly, hilarious!
You’re not a bitch Julie, that guy was more of a creeper than a player, asking for all of your information and not returning the favor, thats basically a creeper or a scumbag take your pick, good for you for ending it before it got real bad
How creepy. Chronic text messaging is a deal breaker for me. When a guy will only text message to communicate it gives me the idea that he is not that interested. What’s worse is when the man doesn’t even bother to make a complete sentence.Text messaging is fine every once in a while, but to make that the basis of communication makes me leery.
Thankfully you never met him in person, he sounds disturbed.
WOW! Right off the bat I would have told him where to go. Too many personal questions way too soon for my comfort. You are a bitch? That is hilarious. He must be living in mommy’s basement still. It is a real shame we need to weed through so many freaks to find a good catch.
Wow. That was crazy!
He sounds very creepy to me. I think you got out of there just in time!
oh my, what a story! I would be nervous about him too! Ha, at least you have a sense of humor about it
I’ve heard some interesting eharmony stories from a friend of mine, but I also know of quite a few people that have met and gotten married through it…i guess you just have to weed out the crazy ones.
oh. my.
Mr. Right is out there somewhere.
oh, you big big witch!!! ! haha! he was totally playing you. so glad you didn’t follow thru and went with your gut. ugh. what a jerk. any guy that is texting you nonstop is not good.
keep it up!!! you’ll find him!
Whoa. That’s just weird! And he must do nothing but sit with his laptop ALL DAY AND NIGHT texting women 24/7.
At the very least, he’s good blog fodder, right?
OMG. Just catching up on my blog reading and read this. I HAVE to send this link to my friend. She will love it. Her last date stayed in her driveway HONKING instead of going to the door to get her because “he didn’t want to leave his dog in the car alone.”
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PS–Your txting dude was a jerk. He was so obviously communicating with mutiple girls. However, he DID get the cute pic thing right for you
Glad you got rid of that one! He sounds like a wing nut! Good for you for not wasting any more time!
Are you kidding me??
What an a… nevermind.
Oh, I saw that one coming from the beginning of the post. He actually doesn’t sound like a loser, he sounds like a scary dude. I’m glad you dodged that bullet. So glad to be married (sorry to rub it in) but if you ever need a second opinion, I developed pretty good “loser radar.”
Thankful that you were smart enough to cut communication…some aren’t, and this guy sounded like he was looking for a “sucker” to toy with.
You have a great head on your shoulders, Lovey…keep your chin up, and your smile big…HUGS!
Ughhhh.. totally a player…. hang in there though. I have several friends who have met their mates through match/eharmony
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